Parenting With A Narcissist — SpunkyDiva Diaries

A person with narcissistic personality disorder has a veneer of generosity and kindness, but after marrying him, when you really get to know each other, you discover that's not who he is at all. Despite the fact that the term was first coined by Richard A Gardner in the early 1980s, apparently the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (Cafcass) only recently realised parental alienation occurred in significant numbers” of the cases that it dealt with, which makes some wonder what they have been doing as there are estimates that PAS is present in 11%-15% of divorces involving children.

Your ex probably isn't a narcissist and you probably can find a path to peaceful co-parenting. Narcissists thrive on drama, so they create it all the time. You can't co-parent with the narcissist because the narcissist is not an emotionally intelligent partner who wants what's best for everyone.

The court has to determine how to Narcissistic co-parenting help the child have a relationship with both parents without punishing the narcissist for his condition. At the end of the day, this person is a child in adult shoes, trying to navigate their world through the use of control.

Your narcissistic ex will do the same thing to your kids. You create a parallel parenting relationship by laying out parenting rules that allow it to happen. Another characteristic of splitting found in both the Narcissist and Borderline personalities is that they are unable to understand that people can feel more than one emotion at a time.

This book will empower you to communicate with your ex-spouse and save you all the heartache of not understanding what to do. If it becomes completely unbearable to communicate with your ex, you can work with them or a judge to court order communication with one of the popular parent communication websites like or These platforms become a savior for parents who simply cannot communicate by the rules laid out by decree or request.

It also provides an essential record of all communications between parents that is timestamped and unalterable. They often become quite co-dependent because that is what the narcissist expects and trains them to do. The children feel a tremendous loss of a parent they should have had but did not.